If you must be
If you must be selfish, then be wise and not narrow-minded in your selfishness.
In a family where there is love and compassion, the children will become happier and more successful human beings. Without love, there is a real danger of ruining their whole life. Human affection is thus most influential for children’s development.
For a person who cherishes compassion and love, the practice of tolerance is essential, and for that an enemy is indispensable.
Wasting any essence of this precious human existence is almost like taking poison while being fully aware of the consequences.
When we are committed to honesty, we help reduce the level of misunderstanding, doubt, and fear throughout society. – Dalai Lama
Compassion and tolerance are not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. -Dalai Lama
The truth of suffering is that we experience many different types of suffering. The three categories are: suffering of suffering-this refers to things such as headaches; suffering of change-this is related to the feeling of restlessness after being comfortable; and all-pervasive suffering that acts as the basis of the first two categories and is under the control of karma and the disturbing mind.
Listening is like a torch that dispels the darkness of ignorance. If you are able to make your mental continuum wealthy thorough listening, no one can steal that wealth. It is supreme wealth.
When hatred or anger are generated they have the capacity to destroy one’s virtue and calmness of mind.
All different faiths and systems are only methods to achieve a goal that for the average person is happiness in life.
To foster inner awareness, introspection, and reasoning is more efficient than meditation and prayer.
Unlike an external enemy, the inner enemy cannot regroup and launch a comeback once it has been destroyed from within.
With the Buddha nature, all negative things can be purified.
True compassion is not an emotional response but a firm commitment founded in reason. A truly compassionate attitude toward others does not change even when they behave negatively.
In this century we have made remarkable material progress, but basically we are the same as we were thousands of years ago. Our spiritual needs are still great.
It is very wrong for people to feel deeply sad when they lose money, yet when they waste the precious moments of their lives they do not.
I feel there is a difference between the mental conflicts that one feels and the emotions they give rise toâ€”anger, hostility, and so forth. If you’re not able to express these conflicts, then when you are able at a later point they’re automatically accompanied by hostility/anger.
If you know someone is speaking badly of you behind your back and you react to that negatively, then you destroy your own peace of mind.
When one is in an intense state of hatred, even a very close friend appears somehow “frosty,” cold and distant, or quite annoying.
If you rely on someone who has lower qualities than yourself, that will lead to your degeneration.
The human spirit of reconciliation based on compassion is working deep down, whether the person really knows it or not.
Human happiness and human satisfaction must ultimately come from within oneself.
Some people, sweet and attractive, strong and healthy, happen to die young. They are masters in disguise teaching us about impermanence.
The basic sources of happiness are a good heart, compassion, and love. If we have these mental attitudes, even if we are surrounded by hostility, we feel little disturbance.
Nothing is more important than guarding the mind. Let us constantly keep watch over it, curbing it with mindfulness and vigilance.
Should we persist in our normal self-centered tendencies and behavior in spite of our human birth, we would be wasting a great opportunity.
Selfishness of mind causes ignorance, anger, and passion â€” which are at the root of all the troubles of the world.
The rationale for loving others is the recognition that every living being has the same right to and desire for happiness and not suffering.
In a way, the universal invasion of technology, everywhere it goes, lessens the life of the mind.
I believe that the search for Truth will continue and will grow even keener as we make greater material progress.
The trouble with desire is that it is a blind desire and can only give temporary satisfaction.
There are 3 types of joyous effort: armorlike joyous effort, joyous effort in gathering virtues, and joyous effort in working for others.
Generosity is of three types: giving material aid, giving Dharma, and protecting from fear.
Human beings will continue to deceive and overpower one another.
Since at the beginning and end of our lives we’re so dependent on others’ kindness, how can we neglect kindness toward others in the middle?
The mind can and must transform itself. We all start off with the same capacities, but some people develop them while others don’t.
When we’re able to recognize and forgive ignorant actions, we strengthen ourselves and can solve the problems of the present constructively.
If objects and people evoke attachment in us, we do not understand the true nature of phenomena. We can only become detached by realizing the true nature of things.
The Buddhist notion of attachment is not what people in the West assume. We say that such love is free of attachment.
Great vigilance must be maintained at all times when dealing in areas with which we do not have great understanding. This, of course, is where science can help. We consider things to be mysterious only when we do not understand them.
To be successful in accomplishing the practice of the 6 perfections, cooperation with and kindness to fellow beings is extremely important. [6 perfections being generosity, ethical discipline, tolerance, joyous effort, concentration, and wisdom]
Follow the three Rs: Respect for self, Respect for others and Responsibility for all your actions. – Dalai Lama
Our ancient experience confirms at every point that everything is linked together, everything is inseparable. Consequently, the gap between people has to be reduced.
‘Giving Dharma’ refers to the giving of teachings to other sentient beings with pure motivation to benefit them.
Without patient endurance, even the smallest thing becomes unbearable. A lot depends on our attitude.
Large human movements spring from individual initiatives. Thus it is the individual working for the common welfare who makes the difference.
The observation that good people suffer and evil people keep enjoying benefits and recognition is shortsighted.
We should be grateful to our enemies, for it is they who can best help us develop a tranquil mind.
We learn from the principle of dependent origination that things and events do not come into being without causes.
History has shown us that the most positive or beneficial developments in human society have occurred as the result of care and compassion.
When receiving the teachings, it’s important to listen with the determined wish to attain the state of omniscience for the sake of all beings.
Even in worldly terms, the more intelligent and knowledgeable a person is, the more the person commands respect.
If a tailor just holds the needle in his hand and goes on talking to a customer, the tailoring does not get finished. Besides, the needle might prick his finger. In short, meaningless gossip prevents us from doing any kind of work.
Man and society are interdependent, hence the quality of man’s behavior as an individual and as a participant in his society is inseparable.
Relinquish your envy, let go of your desire to triumph over others. Instead try to benefit them with kindness. – Dalai Lama
According to tantra, the ultimate nature of mind is essentially pure. This pristine nature is technically called “clear light.”
The greater the success one enjoys in worldly terms, the more complex the psychological make-up seems to be. Because there is a much more complex nexus of hopes and fears, apprehensions and inhibitions.
The natural environment sustains the life of all beings universally.
Indulgence in resentment and vengeance will only further increase miseries to oneself and others in this life and in lives to come.
It is delusion that forces one to be attracted and attached to one’s own side and feel hatred and anger toward the opposite side. Thus, one creates many divisions within the human community, coming about through the underlying force of the attachment to one’s own self.
We are born and reborn countless number of times, and it is possible that each being has been our parent at one time or another. Therefore, it is likely that all beings in this universe have familial connections.
A person who knows a lot but does not practice is like a shepherd who does not own any sheep but always looks after another’s flock.
Real compassion comes from seeing another person’s suffering. You feel a sense of responsibility and want to do something for him or her.
It is important to use money properly to help others; otherwise you will still want more and feel poor.
I would like, on behalf of the Tibetans in and outside Tibet, to sincerely thank our supporters and friends.
There is no way that negative actions or deeds can result in joy and happiness. Both, by definition are the fruits of wholesome actions.
The very purpose of religion is to control yourself, not to criticize others. Rather, we must criticize ourselves.
If we examine human nature carefully, it is good, well disposed, helpful.
People who fight with others out of anger, hatred, or strong emotion, even if they gain victory in battle, are not in reality true heroes. The true hero is the one who gains victory over hatred and anger.
Through meditative techniques, one can free the mind of delusions and attain what we call enlightenment.
Firstly, as a Buddhist monk, I hold that violence is not good. Secondly, I am a firm believer in the Gandhian ethic of passive resistance. And Thirdly, in reality, violence is not our strength.
If the love within your mind is lost, if you continue to see other beings as enemies then no matter how much knowledge or education you have, no matter how much material progress is made only suffering and confusion will ensue.
Being patient might not be easy. It requires considerable concentration. But the result we achieve by enduring these difficulties will be sublime.
I believe all suffering is caused by ignorance. People inflict pain on others in the selfish pursuit of their own happiness or satisfaction.
There are many afflictive emotions such as conceit, arrogance, jealousy, and so on, but hatred or anger is singled out as the greatest evil.
Good human qualitiesâ€”honesty, sincerity, a good heartâ€”cannot be bought with money or produced by machines, but only by the mind itself.